Resolving Conflict With Your Partner

 

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Relationships aren’t always plain sailing. At the end of the day, if you spend a lot of time with someone and share a lot of elements of your day to day life with them, you may experience friction and conflict at various points of your journey together. This is completely normal. At the end of the day, conflict is what allows us to resolve situations, meeting at a compromise and reducing the issues we have with one another. The issue is that, all too often, people tend to deal with conflict in an unhealthy manner. We argue. We shout. We get angry. This needs to be avoided wherever possible and we should turn to more positive and productive ways to deal with conflict instead. Here are some that you might like to try out.

Healthy Communication

The key to healthy conflict resolution is good communication. It really is important that you communicate properly with your partner - as basic as this may sound. If you find that something is bothering you, you’re concerned about something, you’re insecure about something - anything - it’s important that you discuss this in a calm and measured way. This will allow you to present your feelings and for your partner to help you to deal with them. They may be able to offer you support, comfort, reassurance or whatever else you may need to put the issue behind you.

Acceptance of Incompatibility

There are, of course, some relationships that simply will not work. Maybe you and your partner are simply incompatible. Maybe one has done something that the other can’t move past. Maybe circumstances simply mean that you cannot be together. Whatever the reason, you need to accept if something isn’t working. This can be difficult, especially if you are married. But you can resolve this by moving on, splitting or getting a divorce, using a mediator like Natalie Chase to deal with difficult or uncomfortable disagreements and more. If you are struggling with your relationship but want an outsider’s opinion on whether things could work, couples therapy could be a good first step too.

Compromise

Remember that, to resolve conflict with your partner, you may need to compromise at times. At the end of the day, you’re going to be two people with different preferences. Sometimes you will both have to be lenient and make way for things that are important to your partner but may not be of the utmost importance to you. Just make sure that the level of compromise in your relationship is equal and that one person isn’t always getting their own way at the other’s expense. This can result in problems and further conflict. Instead, things need to be balanced and fair.

These are just a few different areas of focus you might want to take into consideration when it comes to resolving conflicts with your partner. Of course, there are countless other steps that you can take and the best for you will differ depending on your individual circumstances. But you should make a good start by considering those above!